Sunday, March 21, 2010

Will it ever be easy?

Do any of my readers have ex-husbands? Do you share a child with that man? I feel like life won't get easy between us until our son is an adult and making his own decisions. I got told tonight how selfish I am because I want my son with me and my family next weekend (which by the way is my weekend to have him). The ex wants to take him to a birthday party of his girlfriends nephew. That's fine, however, it's my brother's 18th birthday next week and if we are having a family get together it will probably be Sunday. So I want my son to be there. Am I out of line here? The next thing I know "I only think of myself, he wants our son more, and says that Logan wants to be with him". I have no clue what to think of all of this. I'm not allowing any additional time. Not to be bitchy, but we're busy enough as it is during the school year. Between homework, soccer practice, showers, & bed time, there just isn't enough time in the day! During the summer I let him go to his dads for an extra evening a week. I think I'm being fair! I imagine we'll be back in court soon which is probably for the best. He is very behind on child support and he quit carrying health insurance on our son. Oh the "joys" of split parenting. Anyone have any advice they'd like to share on how to keep my sanity for the next 12 years?

4 comments:

Kristen said...

-no comment, although i could go on and on all day about this subject ;) hang in there, girl

...::Mrs. Southern Bride::... said...

Awe, that would be so tough! I can't imagine having to make those kind of decisions, and no you don't sound selfish for wanting to have your son with you!!

:)

~The South Dakota Cowgirl~ said...

I have 2 ex husbands, but not kids with any of them. What I can say, as a step mom now, is that I think if he wants to be a good dad to your son, you should let him. Don't get me started on selfish mothers.

~The South Dakota Cowgirl~ said...

I will say that I do believe blood family is more important than a gf's nephew.